patience in anger :: peace and deep breaths

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The older I get, the more and more I realize how true …..and ultimately peaceful this concept is. When I am really riled up, I can tend to be a hot head and I definitely speak my mind! What is in my mind ….should not always come out immediately though.

As I deal with frustrating situations with my children or spouse, weird people, unfairness, irresponsibility on my part as well as others, loss, change….or whatever it is….I am learning that it is totally ok to say “I need a moment” or “I need to go work for a bit until this anger subsides”.

If I compare the two instances side by side, I always regret the heat of the moment things that are said…..but when I have taken time to step back, think, pray, and try to understand the situation it always ends in a completely different way…..and in a way that I am much more peaceful about.

Take that moment.

xo,

Barb

work to do

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This is going to be a raw and real moment between you and I.

I am known for speaking my mind, for being passionate, for taking risks, for not holding anything back….and all of these things are good and have their place….but like I have always told myself and others….strengths are also weaknesses….and we need to learn to exercise the strength side more than the weakness side.

This quote literally hit me in the depths of my soul. What if my words were tattooed all over my body? Would I be a thing of beauty to look upon? Or would I want to hide from others…. to cover every inch of my skin with layers of clothing because my words are so putrid and ugly?

I am striving (boy am I striving) to let my words always be seasoned with power, love, and intentionality…..but there are many days where I utterly fail. Thank goodness for grace and the fact that my words are not permanently engraved upon my skin.

I’ve got work to do.

xo,

Barb

hope over fear

Screen shot 2015-02-04 at 9.20.24 AMThere are times in life where fear can make us feel desperate and hopeless. We grasp for control, which we think is security and freedom, only to find that it brings a cage of bondage and despair.

Hope is a powerful thing, and wills the mind to overcome adversity. When you talk to your soul, what are you telling yourself? Are the thoughts of fear, inability and insecurity winning? Or, are you propelling yourself forward with thoughts of courage and hope?

Turn fears and disappointments into opportunity for good….and set your mind on this: hope over fear.

xo,

Barb

merry christmas :: 2014

PicMonkey Collage2014 was a year of incredible opportunity, leaps of faith, stretching growth, saying no, saying yes, pondering, intentional direction, and focusing on joy. I am thankful for each and every moment given to me this past year, for all of you who continue to befriend and support me here, and for the many, many blessings this life brings.

I wish you all a very Merry Christmas!

xo,

Barb

peace :: priorities

76a422dc5d0cf1f2b9dfa3bd8deb89d5If I have seen and learned this once…I have seen and learned it a million times. The constant fight to keep what is real, pure, everlasting, and significant before and above the superficial, fake, dust to ashes, status quo.

Culture tells us to rage, primp, plump, add, take away, live for the moment, fit in, stand for nothing, fall for everything….and I for one will fight against all of that until the day I die.

Give me peace like a river that floods my soul….. any day.

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xo,

Barb

never settle

1c9d6f8d3911d32680844e6892292ce0It always seems like big exciting things come in huge waves for me. Right now there are so many opportunities presenting themselves and it feels heavy, exciting, and overwhelming all at the same time. I feel like I can’t breathe because I am so stinking excited and scared, and I fluctuate between the two constantly.

It is important to remember, in these times, to step back and breathe. Never ever rush into anything, weigh out all of your options, talk with those who know you best {and who will  most likely be affected by your decision}, and make the decision that is going to be the best and the healthiest. The best decision should not add more pressure but rather freedom….and this is where the rubber meets the road. There may be things that you really want to do, but they would not be best, even though they seem so exciting and glamorous….and that is where true courage and wisdom steps in.

Not all open doors are meant to be walked through.

FYI – Sisters are the best

I am dead serious when I say that I have the best sister in the entire world! Don’t even start to tell me about your sister and how amazing she is because I guarantee you she would not, could not, ever not……hold a candle to my sweet sister. I am just teasing really………maybe.

My baby sister Sarah is almost 7 years younger than I am, and when she was born I used to carry her around like one of my baby dolls…..my mom would get all kinds of stares and comments because she let me carry my sister around like she was my own child. I had the hip hold mastered at the ripe old age of seven……:} Man how time has flown by……and my sister is now married with babies of her own. {very beautiful babies I might add!} I wish we lived closer so that I could see her more and kiss on my sweet nephews…….but maybe, just maybe there will be a change there soon! I am crossing my fingers and toes.

Even though we are far apart in miles….opposite sides of the country…..my sister never ceases to amaze me with her gifts of love and encouragement at just the right time. I arrived home from my trip to Delaware {my uncles funeral} and when my neighbor brought over the mail I saw a beautiful package addressed to me  in my sisters immaculate calligraphy….and wondered what in the world could be inside? I knew it would be fantastic whatever it was…..but I was not prepared for the flood of emotions that came when I opened it up and read her sweet note to me, and then saw this amazing watercolor calligraphy print that she had made just for me. I totally welled up with tears at the thoughtfulness and love that seeped off the pages of her gift……and my heart filled to the brim with love for the greatest sister in the world!

Her simple statement was a reminder to me of words that I have excitedly exclaimed to her over the years as I have seen miracle after miracle happen in both my personal life and with my little Knack business…..and as she sensed the sighs of my growing pains and signals of distress with the move and all that comes with it…..she took the time to remind me of the past……of the many miracles I have seen, and experienced first hand…..reminding me not to forget them……and to let the memory of them fall fresh on me again………

I love you Sakes!

If you all have never read my sisters blog, or visited her etsy shop…..you are missing out. The way she creates, photographs and captures life is so beautiful…..don’t miss it.

xo,

Barb

Etcetera- Delaware and beyond

Well……after 1,373 “ish” driving miles, a funeral, and a birthday ….here I am. Back at it.

I am so thankful that my whole family was able to travel to my uncle’s funeral, and am even more thankful for the sweet time that was spent with extended family while we were there. I am overwhelmed with the sweetness and the comfort of just being surrounded by family…. those you love and are loved by…..just as you are…no questions asked.

It is good to be home…but I will treasure the renewed relationships, and the memories that were made.

Have a wonderful weekend!

xo,

Barb